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Thursday, May 12, 2022

Habits: How They Form And How To Break Them

 

Habits: How They Form And How To Break Them

Routines are made up of a three-part "habit loop": a cue, a behavior and a reward. Understanding and interrupting that loop is key to breaking a habit, says journalist Charles Duhigg.

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Think about something it took you a really long time to learn, like how to parallel park. At first, parallel parking was difficult and you had to devote a lot of mental energy to it. But after you grew comfortable with parallel parking, it became much easier — almost habitual, you could say.

Parallel parking, gambling, exercising, brushing your teeth and every other habit-forming activity all follow the same behavioral and neurological patterns, says New York Times business writer Charles Duhigg. His new book The Power of Habit explores the science behind why we do what we do — and how companies are now working to use our habit formations to sell and market products to us.

How Habits Form

It turns out that every habit starts with a psychological pattern called a "habit loop," which is a three-part process. First, there's a cue, or trigger, that tells your brain to go into automatic mode and let a behavior unfold.

"Then there's the routine, which is the behavior itself," Duhigg tells Fresh Air's Terry Gross. "That's what we think about when we think about habits."

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The third step, he says, is the reward: something that your brain likes that helps it remember the "habit loop" in the future.

Neuroscientists have traced our habit-making behaviors to a part of the brain called the basal ganglia, which also plays a key role in the development of emotions, memories and pattern recognition. Decisions, meanwhile, are made in a different part of the brain called the prefrontal cortex. But as soon as a behavior becomes automatic, the decision-making part of your brain goes into a sleep mode of sorts.

"In fact, the brain starts working less and less," says Duhigg. "The brain can almost completely shut down. ... And this is a real advantage, because it means you have all of this mental activity you can devote to something else."

That's why it's easy — while driving or parallel parking, let's say — to completely focus on something else: like the radio, or a conversation you're having.

"You can do these complex behaviors without being mentally aware of it at all," he says. "And that's because of the capacity of our basal ganglia: to take a behavior and turn it into an automatic routine."

Studies have shown that people will perform automated behaviors — like pulling out of a driveway or brushing teeth — the same way every single time, if they're in the same environment. But if they take a vacation, it's likely that the behavior will change.

"You'll put your shoes on in a different order without paying any attention to it," he says, "because once the cues change, patterns are broken up."

That's one of the reasons why taking a vacation is so relaxing: It helps break certain habits.

"It's also a great reason why changing a habit on a vacation is one of the proven most-successful ways to do it," he says. "If you want to quit smoking, you should stop smoking while you're on a vacation — because all your old cues and all your old rewards aren't there anymore. So you have this ability to form a new pattern and hopefully be able to carry it over into your life."

Marketing Habits

It's not just individual habits that become automated. Duhigg says there are studies that show organizational habits form among workers working for the same company. And companies themselves exploit habit cues and rewards to try to sway customers, particularly if customers themselves can't articulate what pleasurable experience they derive from a habit.

"Companies are very, very good — better than consumers themselves — at knowing what consumers are actually craving," says Duhigg.

As an example, he points to Febreeze, a Proctor & Gamble fabric odor eliminator that initially failed when it got to the market.

"They thought that consumers would use it because they were craving getting rid of bad scents," he says. "And it was a total flop. People who had 12 cats and their homes smelled terrible? They wouldn't use Febreeze."

That's when Proctor & Gamble reformulated Febreeze to include different scents.

"As soon as they did that, people started using it at the end of their cleaning habits to make things smell as nice as they looked," he says. "And what they figured out is that people crave a nice smell when everything looks pretty. Now, no consumer would have said that. ... But companies can figure this out, and that's how they can make products work."

Companies can also figure out how to get consumers to change their own habits and form new ones associated with their products or stores. The megastore Target, for example, tries to target pregnant women, says Duhigg, in order to capture their buying habits for the next few years.

"The biggest moment of flexibility in our shopping habits is when we have a child," he says, "because all of your old routines go out the window, and suddenly a marketer can come in and sell you new things."

Analysts at Target collect "terabytes of information" on its shoppers. They have figured out that women who buy certain products — vitamins, unscented lotions, washcloths — might be pregnant and then can use that information to jump-start their marketing campaign.

This can get tricky: One father was upset after receiving coupons for baby products in the mail from Target addressed to his teenage daughter.

"He went in and said, 'My daughter is 16 years old. Are you trying to encourage her to get pregnant?' and the manager apologizes," Duhigg says. "The manager calls a couple of days later ... and the father says, 'I need to apologize. ... I had a conversation with my daughter, and it turns out there's some things going on in my house that I wasn't aware of. She's due in August.' So Target figured it out before her dad did."


Charles Duhigg writes for the business section of The New York Times.

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Interview Highlights

On breaking habits

"What we know from lab studies is that it's never too late to break a habit. Habits are malleable throughout your entire life. But we also know that the best way to change a habit is to understand its structure — that once you tell people about the cue and the reward and you force them to recognize what those factors are in a behavior, it becomes much, much easier to change."

On his bad habits

"I felt like I had a lot of habits that I was powerless over. ... I have a 3-year-old and a 10-month-old. And I remember when my 3-year-old was 1 1/2 or 2. I was writing the book. We would feed him chicken nuggets or other stuff for dinner, which was the only stuff he would eat. And it was impossible for me to stop from reaching over and grabbing his chicken nuggets. It was a struggle every night not to eat his dinner because a 2-year-old dinner is designed to taste delicious and to disintegrate into your mouth into carbs and sugar. And so, I was really interested in this, and I wanted to exercise more and I wanted to be more productive at work."

On rewards

"The weird thing about rewards is that we don't actually know what we're actually craving."

On spirituality and habits

"When [Alcoholics Anonymous] started, there was no scientific basis to it whatsoever. In fact, there's no scientific basis to AA. The 12 steps that are kind of famous? The reason why there's 12 of them is because the guy who came up with them — who wrote them one night while he was sitting on his bed — he chose them because there's 12 apostles. There's no real logic to how AA was designed. But the reason why AA works is because it essentially is this big machine for changing the habits around alcohol consumption and giving people a new routine, rather than going to a bar or drink. ... It doesn't seem to work if people do it on their own. ... At some point, if you're changing a really deep-seated behavior, you're going to have a moment of weakness. And at that moment, if you can look across a room and think, 'Jim's kind of a moron. I think I'm smarter than Jim. But Jim has been sober for three years. And if Jim can do it, I can definitely do it,' that's enormously powerful."


https://www.npr.org/2012/03/05/147192599/habits-how-they-form-and-how-to-break-them



 

The 5 Habits that can Change Your Life

 




The 5 Habits that can Change Your Life


Choncé Maddox

Productivity, Schedule


Friday, October 29th, 2021


habits

Having habits and routines are essential aspects of our everyday lives. Whether you want to meet a goal, be more productive, or live a more balanced life, habits are those small changes that can add up to significant results over time.


One of my favorite books, Atomic Habits by James Clear, talks about how developing habits doesn’t have to be complicated or feel foreign. You have the power to select the habits you want that will help you make progress. If you’re not quite sure which habits to add to your daily routine, here are five key habits to start that can change your life.


1. Wake Up At a Reasonable Time

Getting up early can make a significant impact on how your day is going to shape out. Of course, this isn’t to say that you have to get up at five am each day. However, training your body to wake up earlier is an excellent habit that will provide a big reward.


Getting up early gives you the time to complete your morning to-do list and be able to craft the best routine to tackle the day. Even getting up 15-20 minutes earlier than you usually do can be a great habit to develop. It might not seem like much, but it’s a start and will add more time back into your day, so you’re not overwhelmed with your schedule.


Waking up earlier doesn’t have to mean you’re getting less sleep either. In 2019, Sleep Cycle, a free app to track sleeping routines, released a study of their three million active monthly users. They concluded the average person sleeps 7 hours and 18 minutes each night. In addition, the average bedtime was 11:39 pm, and wake-up time was 7:09 am. So Americans are getting sleep, but also not oversleeping.


Getting enough sleep but still being able to wake up early is key to starting your day on the right track. Not everybody needs an alarm to wake up, though, and that’s okay. Waking up around 7:00 am is actually something that leaders like Elon Musk and Mark Zuckerberg practice each day. Waking up early will set you in a nice daily routine that can help you be productive.


2. Schedule Out Your Day

Scheduling out your day is another vital addition to this list of habits that can change your life. It’s important to know what you’re doing for the day to avoid getting distracted and losing focus. In addition, scheduling out your day can give you an idea of your priorities so you can accomplish what’s most important to you.


With a clear schedule, you can be productive and not overwhelmed and bogged down by all your responsibilities. But, of course, there are some things that just won’t make it into your schedule, and that’s okay. We want to have a plan but also don’t want to work ourselves to the point of exhaustion.


If your current schedule isn’t working, that’s okay; there are ways to fix it. We’ve highlighted a few tips on how you can get your schedule catered to you. Of course, some things are more important to schedule into your day than others. We’ve mentioned seven crucial components that should be included in your daily routine.


Expressing gratitude and scheduling downtime are just a few of the habits that can be added to your day. Sure, you can prioritize productivity, but you also need to be kind to yourself in mind as well. Time is our most valuable resource, and something we can’t get back once it’s gone. Having a schedule will help you successfully use those minutes and hours and help establish a good routine instead of wasting away time.


3. Give Yourself Deadlines

Giving yourself deadlines to achieve each day is one of the best habits you can develop. Most people don’t like deadlines or the pressure that comes with them, but this can actually be helpful when you change your perspective.


Having a goal in mind when a task should be completed can greatly impact your day. Instead of never having a time in mind when something should be done, give yourself that timeline with a deadline. Deadlines have helped me so much in the past because I often procrastinate. There are some things I probably never would have gotten done if I didn’t have a specific deadline.


There are a few key benefits you can gain working under a deadline. Accountability is a big one. Hold yourself accountable if your deadline comes and goes and you still don’t have the task completed. Do you have someone you can count on to be your accountability partner? If not, consider asking a trusted friend or family member to help you.


Having that accountability allows us to access why the task wasn’t finished and how we will improve by hitting a deadline in the future. Having a deadline in place can also help you build momentum. Knowing you have that completion time in mind can help you stay motivated and limit distractions.


4. Make Time For Movement

Establishing a habit of moving your body throughout the day can change your life. It’s not good for us to be sitting all day without getting up and moving. According to a Mayo Clinic 2019 study, people who sit for eight hours a day with no physical activity have the same risk of dying similar to someone who smokes or is obese. This is bad news for many Americans because sedentary jobs in America have increased more than 83% since 1953, according to the American Heart Association. According to the same survey, only 20% of Americans have physically active jobs. The average office worker actually sits 15 hours a day.


That number is even higher for people who are still commuting to the office every day. Sitting without exercise can raise our chances of many different health risks, including high blood pressure, stroke. Heart disease, obesity, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, and more. What can we do to offset these health risks and work from our seat lifestyle?


Well, we need physical activity in our lives. Something as simple as using a treadmill or walking around the block can make a significant impact on your health. Make sure to take breaks and get up from your chair. Standing up as often as every 30 minutes can be huge for you. If you can even stand while doing phone calls, this can be an excellent way to move around and get your legs moving while also getting working done as well.


5. Prioritize Practicing Self Care

Believe it or not, you are your most important asset. We need to take care of ourselves above all else. Make sure you are making time daily to address your self-care. It could be something as simple as meditation, prayer, reading, journaling, or even just focusing on a non-work-related goal you have in mind. Prioritize passion projects that you have as well.


Self-care focuses on both your mental and physical health. We need to keep our health in mind and shouldn’t overwork ourselves. If your time allows scheduling a course can be good for you. It can be job-related or just in a passion that you’ve had. It’s essential to prioritize ourselves and our well-being.


Summary

There has been a shift to working from our desks that hasn’t been seen before. We can’t let our physical or mental health be affected by this way of life. Work is vital, of course, but we are our most important asset. These habits can help you prioritize yourself and improve your life in every way.


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https://www.calendar.com/blog/5-habits-that-can-change-your-life/






Monday, May 9, 2022

Brain Regions

 








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Self - Delusion Quotes

 




"Above all, do not lie to yourself." 

― Dostoevsky



“If history teaches anything, it teaches that self-delusion in the face of unpleasant facts is folly.” ~ Ronald Reagan

“The human brain is a complex organ with the wonderful power of enabling man to find reasons for continuing to believe whatever it is that he wants to believe.” ~ Voltaire

“The human capacity for self-delusion is boundless, and the effects of belief are overpowering.” ~ Michael Shermer

“Since I no longer expect anything from mankind except madness, meanness, and mendacity; egotism, cowardice, and self-delusion, I have stopped being a misanthrope.” ~ Irving Layton

“I suppose our capacity for self-delusion is boundless.” ~ John Steinbeck

“An honorable human relationship- that is, one in which two people have the right to use the word “love”- is a process, delicate, violent, often terrifying to both persons involved, a process of refining the truths they can tell each other.

It is important to do this because it breaks down human self-delusion and isolation.

It is important to do this because in doing so we do justice to our own complexity.

It is important to do this because we can count on so few people to go that hard way with us.” ~ Adrienne Rich

“Nationalism is power hunger tempered by self-deception.” ~ George Orwell

“Celebrity gives us delusion of self importance.” ~ Al Goldstein

“I learned that I never really know the true story of my guests’ lives, that I have to content myself with knowing that when I’m interviewing somebody, I’m getting a combination of fact and truth and self-mythology and self-delusion and selective memory and faulty memory.” ~ Terry Gross

“Love is the self-delusion we manufacture to justify the trouble we take to have sex.” ~ Daniel S. Greenberg

“Affirmation without discipline is the beginning of delusion.” ~ Jim Rohn

“It is amazing how complete is the delusion that beauty is goodness.” ~ Leo Tolstoy

“I suppose I have a highly developed capacity for self-delusion, so it’s no problem for me to believe that I’m somebody else.” ~ Daniel Day-Lewis

“I seek the truth…it is only persistence in self-delusion and ignorance that does harm.” ~ Marcus Aurelius

“Worship means reverence and humility it means revering your real self and humbling delusions.” ~ Bodhidharma

“History is the lies of the victors.” ~ Julian Barnes

“History is that certainty produced at the point where the imperfections of memory meet the inadequacies of documentation.” ~ Julian Barnes

“There is no self-delusion more fatal than that which makes the conscience dreamy with the anodyne of lofty sentiments, while the life is groveling and sensual” ~ James Russell Lowell , Self delusion quotes in life

“No one can genuinely love the world, which is too large to love entire. To love all the world at once is pretense or dangerous self-delusion. Loving the world is like loving the idea of love, which is perilous because, feeling virtuous about this grand affection, you are freed from the struggles and the duties that come with loving people as individuals.” ~ Dean Koontz

“We are one of only three species on our planet that can claim to be self-aware, yet self-delusion may be a more significant characteristic of our kind.” ~ Michael Crichton


 

“The great paradox of determinism and free will, which has held the attention of the wisest of philosophers and psychologists for generations, can be phrased in more biological terms as follows: If our genes are inherited, and our environment is a train of physical events set in motion before we were born, how can there be a truly independent agent within the brain? The agent itself is created by the interaction of the genes and the environment. It would appear that our freedom is only a self delusion.” ~ E. O. Wilson

“Vanity, wounded pride, rejection, self-delusion. I could recite a litany of little pinpricks that finally produce a gaping wound. That’s how marriages and friendships come apart.” ~ Helen Van Slyke

“There’s always an element of self delusion among people who believe they ought to be President. There’s an underestimation of your opponent and an overestimation of your own abilities. This is compatible with being rich and powerful, the idea that we were blessed by God because we deserve to be blessed.” ~ Jimmy Carter

“The extremely tiny fraction who think regularly, accurately, creatively, and without self-delusion – in the long run, these are the only people who count.” ~ Robert A. Heinlein

“Optimism is a tonic. Pessimism is poison. Admittedly, every businessman must be realistic. He must gather facts, analyze them candidly and strive to draw logical conclusions, whether favorable or unfavorable. He must not engage in self-delusion. He must not view everything through rose-colored glasses. Granting this, the incontestable truth is that America has been built up by optimists, not by pessimists, but by men possessing courage, confidence in the nation’s destiny, by men willing to adventure to shoulder risks terrifying to the timid.” ~ B. C. Forbes

“Human beings have an almost unlimited capacity for self-delusion. We can justify any amount of sadness if it fits our own particular standard of reality.” ~ John Twelve Hawks

“You don’t have to be Dave Halberstam to see that the American role in both conflicts [the Iraq war and the Vietnam conflict] is characterized by arrogance, ignorance and self-delusion at the highest levels of government.” ~ Jonathan Yardley

“Men, unlike mockingbirds, have the capacity for systematic self-delusion. We echo each other with equal precision, equal eloquence, equal assurance.” ~ Robert Ardrey

“There are certain ways you have to delude yourself. Self-delusion is important, for instance in family life. You know what I mean? If you’re in love with your wife you have to go in there with blind faith. You have to support everything. And with your kids, you have to believe that you’re doing something that has higher purpose; even though you don’t have any evidence that that’s the way it’s going to turn out.” ~ Greg Graffin

“I’d actually love to think that I could trust Kerry on national security. But the only way I could do that, at this point, would be via self-delusion.” ~ Glenn Reynolds

“It is difficult for men in high office to avoid the malady of self-delusion. They are always surrounded by worshipers. They are constantly, and for the most part sincerely, assured of their greatness.” ~ Calvin Coolidge

“That’s kind of what trust is, isn’t it? A willful self-delusion.” ~ Brandon Sanderson

“I flattered myself that I was rather empathetic, that I had rather good imaginative empathy. I’ve realized now that that was a complete self-delusion and that I didn’t really have any comprehension of what it was like to see your entire life go catastrophically wrong in a matter of moments.” ~ Decca Aitkenhead

“Each memory was brought to life before me and within me. I could not avoid them. Neither could I rationalize, explain away. I could only re-experience with total cognizance, unprotected by pretense. Self delusion was impossible, truth exposed in this blinding light. Nothing as I thought it had been. Nothing as I hoped it had been. Only as it had been.” ~ Richard Matheson

“Ruthven surmised that he had hit upon some of the central deceptions which had wrecked him and reduced him and so many of his colleagues to this condition. To surmise was not to conquer, of course; he was as helpless as ever but there was a dim liberation in seeing how he had been lied to, and he felt that at least he could take one thing from the terrible years through which he had come: he was free of self-delusion.” ~ Barry N. Malzberg

“A woman wishes to mother a man simply because she sees into his helplessness, his need of an amiable environment, his touching self-delusion.” ~ H. L. Mencken


 

“Men educate each other in reason by contact or collision, and keep each other sane by the very conflict of their separate hobbies. Society as a whole is the deadly enemy of the particular crotchet of each, and solitude is almost the only condition in which the acorn of conceit can grow to the oak of perfect self-delusion.” ~ Edwin Percy Whipple

“A direct statement about yourself is considered objective only if it is negative. If it’s positive, it is considered subjective. And ‘objective’ means it is accurate, and ‘subjective’ means it is conceited self-delusion.” ~ Barbara Sher

“Fox News seems much more conservative than it is because no other television network over the past half-century has been anything but decidedly liberal. When the media norm is liberal, liberals equate liberalism with objectivity and deviations from it as bias, just as liberals preach tolerance toward all ideas – except conservative ones. Their self-delusion is surreal.” ~ David Limbaugh

“The first-person viewpoint is more enjoyable to write, because it lets me meander more freely, and it can reveal more of the character’s self-delusions. Really all the advantages are with first-person, so I’m sorry I don’t get to pick and choose.” ~ Anne Tyler

“Everyone, including skeptics, will generate delusions that match their views. That is how a normal and healthy brain works. Skeptics are not exempt from self-delusion.” ~ Scott Adams

“Writing is the perfect balance between self-confidence and self-doubt, with a bit of self-delusion thrown in.” ~ Judith Kelman


 

“To me, the human move to take responsibility for the living Earth is laughable – the rhetoric of the powerless. The planet takes care of us, not we of it. Our self-inflated moral imperative to guide a wayward Earth, or heal our sick planet, is evidence of our immense capacity for self delusion. Rather, we need to protect ourselves from ourselves.” ~ Lynn Margulis

“The most foreign fighters in Iraq are wearing British and American uniforms. The level of self-delusion is bordering frankly on the racist. The vast majority of the people of Iraq are against the occupation of Iraq by the American and British forces.” ~ George Galloway

“What is history? Any thoughts, Webster?’ ‘History is the lies of the victors,’ I replied, a little too quickly. ‘Yes, I was rather afraid you’d say that. Well, as long as you remember that it is also the self-delusions of the defeated. … ‘Finn?’ ‘”History is that certainty produced at the point where the imperfections of memory meet the inadequacies of documentation.” (quoting Patrick Lagrange)” ~ Julian Barnes

“If the awareness of our limitations begins to limit or to dim our value consciousness as well—as happens, for instance, in old age with regard to the values of youth—then we have already started the movement of devaluation which will end with the defamation of the world and all its values. Only a timely act of resignation can deliver us from this tendency toward self-delusion.” ~ Max Scheler

“It is difficult for men in high office to avoid the malady of self-delusion” ~ Calvin Coolidge

“A form of self-delusion.” ~ Elbert Hubbard

“Not complete inaction, which is an error, a confusion, a self-delusion, an impossibility, but action full and

free done without subjection to sense and passion, desireless and unattached works, are the first secret of perfection.” ~ Sri Aurobindo

“When you are filled with soul energy you become magnetic.” 11 Teachings to help on the journey to Soul Realization: (1) Practive humility; (2) Give up pride and self-delusion; (3) Practice loving kindness; (4) Give up anger, hatred and vindictiveness; (5) Practice generosity; (6) Avoid greed and stealing in its different aspects; (7) Practice honesty; (8) Avoid maliciousness and exploiting lies; (9)Practice moderation; (10) Avoid excessiveness; (11) Do not allow yourself to be enslaved by your lower nature” ~ Choa Kok Sui

“Danger is a good teacher, and makes apt scholars. So are disgrace, defeat, exposure to immediate scorn and laughter. There is no opportunity in such cases for self-delusion, no idling time away, no being off your guard (or you must take the consequences) – neither is there any room for humour or caprice or prejudice.” ~ William Hazlitt

“We all need a bit of self-delusion. It gets us over the difficult spots.” ~ John Ralston Saul

“Words bend our thinking to infinite paths of self-delusion, and the fact that we spend most of our mental lives in brain mansions built of words means that we lack the objectivity necessary to see the terrible distortion of reality which language brings.” ~ Dan Simmons

“People compose the schedules they do out of the priorities they have; and someone who says otherwise is deceiving himself about what he really values. The same thing applies to money that applies to time. I make a practice of watching what people do, never what they say. Whatever is important, to anyone sane, he will make a place for it; people live out their values. Values are different in this respect from “ideals,” which are typically vain and effete and thus exist mostly for the sake of promoting self-delusions.” ~ Kenny Smith

“The atheist view is correspondingly life-affirming and life-enhancing, while at the same time never being tainted with self-delusion, wishful thinking, or the whingeing self-pity of those who feel that life owes them something.” ~ Richard Dawkins

“Your cowardly self-delusions about “love” when you know as well as I do that there’s never been anything between us but contempt and distrust and a terrible sickly dependence on each other’s weakness- that’s why. That’s why I couldn’t stop laughing about the Inability to Love, and that’s why I can’t stand to let you touch me, and that’s why I’ll never again believe in anything you think, let alone anything you say” ~ Richard Yates

“We cannot move casually into a better future. We cannot casually pursue the goal we have set for ourselves. A goal that is casually pursued is not a goal; at best it is a wish, and wishes are little more than self-delusion.” ~ Jim Rohn

“I have a theory about marriage, Monsieur Boustouler. And it’s that nearly always you will know within two weeks if it’s going to work. It’s astonishing how many people remain shackled for years, decades even, in a protracted and mutual state of self-delusion and false hope when in fact they had their answer in those first two weeks.” ~ Khaled Hosseini 

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Sunday, May 8, 2022

Régine Zylberberg obituary (France) singer, actor and nightclub owner




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Régine Zylberberg obituary
French singer and nightclub owner credited with inventing the discotheque who was a favourite of the international jetset


Régine in rehearsal in Paris in 1973. Her two attempts to open clubs in London crashed. ‘The English have no style,’ she claimed afterwards. Photograph: AFP/Getty Images


Kim Willsher
Sun 8 May 2022 




In 1950s Paris, Régine Zylberberg, a barmaid, cloakroom assistant and occasional seller of bras in the local market, had an idea that would transform the city’s nightlife and make her the darling of the international jet set.

Fed up with customers at the famous Whisky-à-Go-Go club repeatedly playing the same songs on the jukebox, and remarking that the sound of “couples snogging in the corners” between records killed the atmosphere, she installed two turntables for continuous music.


It was the start of a career as a nightclub owner for the woman who would become known simply as Régine and that would see her credited as creating la discothèque. Régine, nicknamed Queen of the Night, has died aged 92.

From her first club in Paris’s Latin Quarter, Chez Régine, established in 1956, her empire would eventually stretch to more than 20 establishments entertaining the world’s beau monde: the rich; the famous; the aristocratic, including royals, from Buenos Aires to Monte Carlo via Kuala Lumpur, Cairo and Los Angeles.
Régine with the French singer and songwriter Serge Gainsbourg in 1984. Photograph: Pierre Guillaud/AFP/Getty Images

Her clientele was eclectic but almost exclusively wealthy, powerful and well connected, among them Andy Warhol, Brigitte Bardot, the Rothschilds, the Kennedys, Liza Minnelli, Truman Capote, Marlene Dietrich, Henry Miller, Richard Nixon, the future president Georges Pompidou, the mobster John Gotti and Salvador Dalí.



She dyed her hair flame red and attracted diverse lovers:
the actors Robert Mitchum, Warren Beatty, Gene Kelly, Steve McQueen and Omar Sharif, and singer Jacques Brel, as well as sporting stars and alpinists Jean-Claude Killy and Maurice Herzog, the Spanish matador El Cordobés and the Swedish tennis champion Björn Borg.

“I do love champions,” she told French television.


Dancing was her passion: “If you can’t dance, you can’t make love,
” she would say, and she famously taught the Duke of Windsor to do the twist.

The rich and famous went to Régine’s, where drinks were sold by the bottle, to see and be seen, but their exclusivity was founded on illusion; a “Full” sign would be put outside each of her clubs even as they opened, a hype that created the demand that saw everyone, however privileged, queue to enter.

“After a certain hour [of the night], it’s sometimes difficult to distinguish a princess from a prostitute. And one doesn’t exclude the other,” she wrote in her memoirs.

Only London failed to fall for Régine’s charms. Her two attempts to open clubs in the city crashed. “The English have no style,” she claimed afterwards.


By the early 80s, Régine also had her own line of perfume, but as times and tastes changed, the clubs closed, and bad investments diminished her fortune. 

For those who knew her traumatic history, and she made no secret of it, Régine’s self-professed workaholism and search for recognition and respect were rooted in trying to compensate for a childhood blighted by an alcoholic father, an absent mother and the Nazis. 


Régine celebrating the new year in Paris in 2015. Photograph: Bertrand Guay/AFP/Getty Images

Régina (she became Régine later) was born in Anderlecht, Belgium, to Tauba Rodstein and Joseph Zylberberg, both Polish Ashkenazi Jews. Her parents had lived for eight years in Argentina and moved to Paris when Joseph, a drinker and gambler, lost the family boulangerie in a poker game. Rodstein soon gave up and returned to Argentina, leaving Régina and her brother, Maurice, in their largely absent father’s care. During the Nazi occupation of France, the children went into hiding in a series of foster homes, including a convent in Aix-en-Provence where Régina was beaten by other girls for being Jewish.

At the age of 14, she was working at a refuge for the elderly in Lyon where she fell in love with the owners’ son, Claude, nephew of Bernard Schonberg,
the chief rabbi in the city. In 1944 he was on his way to the synagogue to discuss marrying her when he was arrested by the Nazis and dispatched to the concentration camps, where he died. Shortly afterwards, aged 16, Régina married Leon Rotcajg, with whom she had a son, Lionel, but they divorced four years later.

In postwar Paris, Régine worked in the café-bar-brasserie in the 20th arrondissement established by her father, where she also learned to cook. After opening Chez Régine, in France she also became well known as a singer and occasional actor, starring in films by the directors Claude Lelouch and Claude Zidi and recording a number of albums.


Having sold all her nightclubs by the late 2000s, Régine declared herself “ruined”.
However, she went on to harness her connections for charitable causes, including the fight against drug abuse, wrote three volumes of a memoir and returned to singing.

In 2015, she set off for her first concert tour, performing just some of the 300 songs she claimed had been written for her during her lifetime.
“For a long time, songs were just a hobby. But now I realise that the stage has been the most important part of my life,” she said.

Asked by a French journalist why she had not retained her family name, and went by Régine, she responded: “Can you imagine someone saying ‘tonight, we’ll meet at the Régina Zylberberg…’? By the time you say it, the night is already over.”


In a profile published in New York magazine in 1977, Régine said her penchant for throwing spectacular events was to make up for all the birthday parties she never had. “One by one, I have filled the dreams of my childhood,” she told the magazine.

She married Roger Choukroun, a computer engineer, in 1969 and divorced him in 2004, but despite her marriages and many lovers, Régine would always describe Claude Schonberg as her “first and only true love”. Her son, Lionel, died in 2006. She is survived by a granddaughter, Daphné.



Régine (Régina Zylberberg), singer, actor and nightclub owner, born 26 December 1929; died 1 May 2022


Régine Zylberberg obituary | France | The Guardian






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Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue.

Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace, is counted wise: and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding.