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Saturday, July 30, 2022
Life's Purpose
As long as I am doing what sustains me, I will always feel as though I have achieved my life’s purpose.
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“Love is the longing for the half of ourselves we have lost.”
“Love is the longing for the half of ourselves we have lost.”
― Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being
“Two people in love, alone, isolated from the world, that's beautiful.”
― Milan Kundera
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“You can't measure the mutual affection of two human beings by the number of words they exchange.”
― Milan Kundera
“Anyone whose goal is 'something higher' must expect someday to suffer vertigo. What is vertigo? Fear of falling? No, Vertigo is something other than fear of falling. It is the voice of the emptiness below us which tempts and lures us, it is the desire to fall, against which, terrified, we defend ourselves.”
― Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being
“When the heart speaks, the mind finds it indecent to object.”
― Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being
“Dogs are our link to paradise. They don't know evil or jealousy or discontent. To sit with a dog on a hillside on a glorious afternoon is to be back in Eden, where doing nothing was not boring--it was peace.”
― Milan Kundera
“for there is nothing heavier than compassion. Not even one's own pain weighs so heavy as the pain one feels with someone, for someone, a pain intensified by the imagination and prolonged by a hundred echoes.”
― Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being
“Making love with a woman and sleeping with a woman are two separate passions, not merely different but opposite. Love does not make itself felt in the desire for copulation (a desire that extends to an infinite number of women) but in the desire for shared sleep (a desire limited to one woman).”
― Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being
“Love is the longing for the half of ourselves we have lost.”
― Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being
“But when the strong were too weak to hurt the weak, the weak had to be strong enough to leave.”
― Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being
“The Greek word for "return" is nostos. Algos means "suffering." So nostalgia is the suffering caused by an unappeased yearning to return.”
― Milan Kundera, Ignorance
“The heaviest of burdens crushes us, we sink beneath it, it pins us to the ground. But in love poetry of every age, the woman longs to be weighed down by the man's body.The heaviest of burdens is therefore simultaneously an image of life's most intense fulfillment. The heavier the burden, the closer our lives come to the earth, the more real and truthful they become. Conversely, the absolute absence of burden causes man to be lighter than air, to soar into heights, take leave of the earth and his earthly being, and become only half real, his movements as free as they are insignificant. What then shall we choose? Weight or lightness?”
― Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being
“In the sunset of dissolution, everything is illuminated by the aura of nostalgia, even the guillotine.”
― Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being
“A person who longs to leave the place where he lives is an unhappy person.”
― Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being
“He suddenly recalled from Plato's Symposium: People were hermaphrodites until God split then in two, and now all the halves wander the world over seeking one another. Love is the longing for the half of ourselves we have lost.”
― Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being
“She had an overwhelming desire to tell him, like the most banal of women. Don't let me go, hold me tight, make me your plaything, your slave, be strong! But they were words she could not say.
The only thing she said when he released her from his embrace was, "You don't know how happy I am to be with you." That was the most her reserved nature allowed her to express.”
― Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being
“We can never know what to want, because, living only one life, we can neither compare it with our previous lives nor perfect it in our lives to come.”
― Milan Kundera
“There is no perfection only life”
― Milan Kundera
“People are always shouting they want to create a better future. It's not true. The future is an apathetic void of no interest to anyone. The past is full of life, eager to irritate us, provoke and insult us, tempt us to destroy or repaint it. The only reason people want to be masters of the future is to change the past.”
― Milan Kundera
“The brain appears to possess a special area which we might call poetic memory and which records everything that charms or touches us, that makes our lives beautiful ... Love begins with a metaphor. Which is to say, love begins at the point when a woman enters her first word into our poetic memory.”
― Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being
“A single metaphor can give birth to love.”
― Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being
Dogs are our link to paradise.
“Dogs are our link to paradise. They don't know evil or jealousy or discontent. To sit with a dog on a hillside on a glorious afternoon is to be back in Eden, where doing nothing was not boring--it was peace.”
― Milan Kundera
Boost your brain health and enhance your intelligence over time.
Boost your brain health and enhance your intelligence over time by staying curious.
Intelligence isn’t about knowing more than other people. It’s about stimulating your brain, being able to solve problems, and learning new things.
It’s common to think of intelligence as something that you’re simply born with. Some people, after all, make being smart look effortless.
Intelligence isn’t a set trait, though. It’s a changeable, flexible ability to learn and stimulate your brain that can improve over time. The key is to practice lifestyle habits that support and protect your brain.
Practicing certain lifestyle habits may help improve your overall intelligence, which includes two types:
Crystallized intelligence. This refers to your vocabulary, knowledge, and skills. Crystallized intelligence typically increases as you get older.
Fluid intelligence. Also known as fluid reasoning, fluid intelligence is your ability to reason and think abstractly.
What science has to say about the different ways you may be able to boost both your crystallized and fluid intelligence":
1. Exercise regularly
2. Get enough sleep
3. Meditate
4. Drink coffee
5. Drink green tea
6. Eat nutrient-rich foods
7. Play an instrument
8. Read
9. Continue learning
10. Socialize
Source: https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-become-smarter
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Rumination
Rumination, dwelling, brooding
Rumination occurs when you have constant and repetitive thoughts about something; typically, a problem or situation. According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, rumination is defined as “obsessive thinking about an idea, situation, or choice especially when it interferes with normal mental functioning.”
A bit of self-reflection can be a good thing, say psychologists. But just how serious can it get when introspection goes awry and thoughts get stuck on repeat, playing over and over in the mind? Can lead to depression and anxiety.
Rumination: When Your Thoughts Don't Have an Off Button
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Friday, July 22, 2022
Thursday, July 21, 2022
“The meaning of life is to give life meaning.”
What are Frankl's three general ways to discover meaning?
Frankl writes: We can discover th writes: We can discover this meaning of life in three different ways: (1) by creating a work or doing a deed; (2) by experiencing something or encouWe can discover this meaning of life in three different ways: (1) by creating a work or doing a deed; (2) by experiencing something or encountering someone; and (3) by the attitude we take toward unavoidable suffering. The first, by way of achievement or accomplishment, is quite obvious. The second and third need further elaboration.
is meaning of life in three different ways: (1) by creating a work or doing a deed; (2) by experiencing something or encouWe can discover this meaning of life in three different ways: (1) by creating a work or doing a deed; (2) by experiencing something or encountering someone; and (3) by the attitude we take toward unavoidable suffering. The first, by way of achievement or accomplishment, is quite obvious. The second and third need further elaboration.
https://www.edbatista.com/2010/04/life.html#:~:text=Frankl%20writes%3A,or%20accomplishment%2C%20is%20quite%20obvious.
What is Viktor Frankl's meaning of life?
According to Frankl, “the meaning of life is to be discovered in the world rather than within man or his own psyche, as though it were a closed system.
Once hopeless, my life is now hope-full, but it did not happen overnight. For what then matters is to bear witness to the uniquely human potential at its best, which is to transform a personal tragedy into a triumph, to turn one's predicament into a human achievement.
Frankl called his approach logotherapy or "meaning therapy," which centers on the belief that humans can overcome the inherent suffering and disappointments of life by finding meaning and a sense of purpose in every moment. Throughout his intense and prolonged suffering in the camps, Frankl was forced to put his theory to the ultimate test. He credited his survival to grasping tightly to the meaning he found in the love of his wife and the satisfaction of his work.
Viktor Frankl on Love, Suffering and the Meaning of Life
Viktor FranklViktor Frankl was an Austrian psychiatrist who spent the years 1942-45 in four different Nazi concentration camps, including Auschwitz. By the end of the war his pregnant wife, his parents and his brother had been murdered; among his immediate family, only he and his sister survived. After the war he published Man's Search for Meaning, a book inspired by his experiences in the camps, and one in which I've found wisdom and comfort during times of difficulty.
As I wrote yesterday, I have been appreciating life while hoping for the recovery of Roanak Desai, a student I've worked with for the past few months who contracted cerebral malaria and was hospitalized last week. I learned last night that Roanak had passed away, and after a good cry with my wife, I turned to Frankl, seeking to make some sense of this meaningless tragedy. Frankl writes:
We can discover this meaning of life in three different ways: (1) by creating a work or doing a deed; (2) by experiencing something or encountering someone; and (3) by the attitude we take toward unavoidable suffering. The first, by way of achievement or accomplishment, is quite obvious. The second and third need further elaboration.
The Meaning of Love
Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the innermost core of his personality. No one can become fully aware of the essence of another human being unless he loves him. By his love he is enabled to see the essential traits and features of the beloved person; and even more, he sees that which is potential in him, which is not yet actualized but yet ought to be actualized. Furthermore, by his love, the loving person enables the beloved person to actualize these potentialities. By making him aware of what he can be and of what he should become, he makes these potentialities come true...
The third way of finding a meaning in life is by suffering.
The Meaning of Suffering
We must never forget that we may also find meaning in life even when confronted with a hopeless situation, when facing a fate that cannot be changed. For what then matters is to bear witness to the uniquely human potential at its best, which is to transform a personal tragedy into triumph, to turn one's predicament into a human achievement. When we are no longer able to change a situation--just think of an incurable disease such as inoperable cancer--we are challenged to change ourselves...
But let me make it perfectly clear that in no way is suffering necessary to find meaning. I only insist that meaning is possible even in spite of suffering--provided, certainly, that the suffering is unavoidable. If it were avoidable, however, the meaningful thing to do would be to remove its cause, be it psychological, biological or political...
There are situations in which one is cut off from the opportunity to do one's work or enjoy one's life; but what can never be ruled out is the unavoidability of suffering. In accepting this challenge to suffer bravely, life has a meaning up to the last moment, and it retains this meaning literally to the end. In other words, life's meaning is an unconditional one, for it even includes the potential meaning of unavoidable suffering...
[In Auschwitz] the question that beset me was, "Has all this suffering, all this dying around us, a meaning? For, if not, then ultimately there is no meaning to survival; for a life whose meaning depends on such a happenstance--as whether one escapes or not--ultimately would not be worth living at all." [pages 111-115]
What I find comforting in Frankl's perspective is that he's not denying the grief and rage that spring from suffering and tragedy. He's not "making the best of things." And he's not blithely suggesting that "everything happens for a reason" (which I find a particularly unhelpful expression of condolence.)
What Frankl is doing is encouraging us to acknowledge our grief and rage, and also to see our suffering as an experience in which it is possible to find meaning. The nature of that meaning will be different for all of us, of course, even in response to the same tragedy. There's no one-size-fits-all meaning-of-life. And discovering that meaning will be hard work, made even harder by our grief and rage.
Roanak DesaiIn the case of Roanak's passing, I'm finding meaning in the realization that, although I knew Roanak for just a few months, the nature of our work together gave me an opportunity to know him well, to talk at length about our hopes and aspirations, and, indeed, to love him. Roanak was an easy person to love, with a warm heart, a ready smile and an inspiring approach to life that had an impact on many people around him. None of this diminishes my grief, and knowing how hard I'm taking this loss, I'm heartbroken at the thought of how hard it must be for Roanak's parents, his close friends and other loved ones. And, of course, I'm reminded of the recent death of Richard Wright, my father-in-law, another man whose passing left a large hole in a community and a family, and the cumulative impact of these losses is making them harder to bear.
And yet there's something in Frankl's words, something about the search for meaning, that makes it easier. The nature of that meaning is not at all clear to me now, and perhaps it never will be. Perhaps this search for meaning is in fact the purpose of life.
https://www.edbatista.com/2010/04/life.html#:~:text=Frankl%20writes%3A,or%20accomplishment%2C%20is%20quite%20obvious.
Wednesday, July 20, 2022
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Thursday, July 14, 2022
Goal Posts needed to Score
1. Have a strong reason or purpose
Oftentimes we set goals without thinking too much about them. Are those things really what we want? From deep down, you have to ask yourself if a goal or result is really, really something that YOU want, not influenced by someone else, or society, or cultural backgrounds, etc. That is, in order to have the strong emotional support for achieving your goal, you must find a strong reason(s) to convince youself why you want to accomplish that goal, why it is important to you.
It may help by asking yourself such questions as:
“Why do I want it?”
“Why is it important to me?”
“What if I don’t achieve it, why does it matter?”
“What difference does it make if I indeed achieved it?”
By having true answers to these questions that you totally believe in, you will have a solid emotional foundation upon which to lanuch your steps toward actually achieving your goal.
2. Find a meaningful measurement for your goal
One of the common reasons we don’t get to accomplish our goal is because we sometimes get frustrated and disappointed when things don’t go the way we expected. We tend to lose heart and eventually stop trying. A simple and effective solution to this problem is to find a meaningful and realistic measurement for your goal, so that you will know that you are always making progress, no matter what actual results you get.
For example, your goal may be to start a home business to support yourself. Now one thing you can use for measuring your progress is how many tasks or things that you do that moves you forwards on your goal, regardless of whether or not the result of that task or thing turns out to be successful.
Back to the example, you may have researched 3 business ideas, made 5 phone calls to people to seek advice. Even though none of the ideas turns out to be workable, none of calls turns out to be of any help, you ARE still making progress. Because you have done 8 things (5 biz ideas and 5 calls) that moved you forward, and that’s progress, regardless of their actual results.
To accomplish anything worthwhile means experiencing many small successes and failures along the way. So long as you keep going, keep trying, keep making progress, keep working on your goal, you will eventually achieve your goal. It’s that simple.
3. Focus on spending enough time required on your goals
A common pitfall that we tend to fall into is that we don’t spend enough time required by the goal. We tend to underestimate the amount of time it takes to accomplish something we really want. Otherwise we probably wouldn’t have set the goal in the first place if we thought it’d be so hard to accomplish.
We are not quite sure how long it usually takes someone like us to accomplish something similar to what we want to achieve. Until we know, we tend to get impatient when things don’t seem to happen fast enough. We tend to lose heart when we don’t see the results sooner enough. Eventually this kind of impatient state of mind will sabotage our goal.
So if you want to accomplish something but don’t know how long it usually takes other people to do it, go and do some research, get some answers so that you will have a realistic idea. For example, if you want to make one million dollars, go ask people who have done it, how long it took them. Also remember to ask how much time they worked daily on average and the total amount of time they worked until the goal is accomplished.
4. Form a habit of reviewing your goals and plans daily
One thing that can ensure the realization of your goal is to be consistent. You must put consistent effort into doing the action steps that yield the results required by your goal. One simple way to do this, is to form a habit of reviewing your goals and plans everyday. The important thing is to make this into a habit, so that you will never have to remember, to even think about it. Therefore you will never be easily sidetracked.
It usually requires a little effort to form any habit at the first, but once the habit is formed, then you are all set. Try a 30-day habit forming plan. Each day for the next 30 days, force yourself to find time to review your goals and action steps, think about them, and reflect how you’re doing with them, and what you need to do next. Stick to this plan for 30 days, I can assure you that after 30 days, you will do this everyday without having to remind yourself.
We all want to accomplish something that’s important, that matters to ourselves. But we won’t be able to do that without a game plan. By following above mentioned steps, we will always have a plan, something to support us, something to keep us going when things get tough, and eventually we will accomplish any goals we set.
Be Here Now
Wednesday, July 13, 2022
Man's Search For Meaning: Powerful Interview with Viktor Frankl's Grandson
Alex Vesely is Viktor Frankl's grandson. Viktor is the author of Man's Search For Meaning and Alex produced a documentary that captures the impact Viktor had with everyone he came in contact with. As well as, his extensive research and practice of Logotheraphy
Monday, July 11, 2022
Sunday, July 10, 2022
Farmers
Farmers know the value of patience. Everything in order, nothing rushed, life proceeding at the same speed as the turn of the seasons: slowly but surely. Seeds sown in late winter, minutely sprouting as the earth warms in the early-year sunshine, watered and fed by the spring showers, then growing, ripening, until it is finally time for harvest, many months later. The cycle of life cannot be rushed. Things happen when they happen.
4 Keys to your life's meaning (Dr. Viktor Frankl)
We live in a time when more and more people believe that life is random and meaningless. And that we’re passive victims of our biology and our environment. But is it true? And how can we find meaning and make sense of our lives? We explore those questions in this video.
One of the best answers I’ve ever seen to this is in the book “Man’s Search for Meaning” by Dr. Viktor E. Frankl. In it, he describes his own horrifying experiences as a Jewish survivor of the holocaust in the Second World War.
Wednesday, July 6, 2022
Viktor Frankl: ‘will to meaning’.
As a psychiatrist, Frankl developed a method called logotherapy, that he used for treating patients who suffered from depression, substance abuse, anxiety, and various other problems.
It was based on Frankl’s observation that those people who survived the Nazi concentration camps during the Holocaust, were the ones who found the strongest will to live by finding meaning.
Frankl then surmised that the primary force that motivates people in life is to find meaning. He called it ‘will to meaning’.
Frankl’s insights have greatly helped many people who have faced existential questions. His methods helped them to find a meaning and a purpose, and thereby a will to live.
His ideas are quite profound and inspirational, and if you are a person that is searching for meaning and/or purpose, they can help you in that quest. Above all, they can give you a direction for your life.
His ideas are quite profound and inspirational, and if you are a person that is searching for meaning and/or purpose, they can help you in that quest. Above all, they can give you a direction for your life.
1. Find a Why
“Those who have a ‘why’ to live, can bear with almost any ‘how’.”
― Viktor E. Frankl quoting Friedrich Nietzsche
If you find your purpose, then you can overcome almost any challenge that life throws at you.
Finding meaning in your experiences, and having a purpose, can create a fortress of the mind that’ll shield you from life’s many hardships.
This reminds me of ancient Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius’ advice to be like a rock which breaks all the waves that crash against it. Having a why can make you into that rock.
Frankl found his why, and that turned him into a rock that nothing could touch. His mind became strong, and allowed him to survive in conditions where most perished.
2. Success and Happiness Must Ensue
“Don’t aim at success. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one’s personal dedication to a cause greater.” — Viktor Frankl
To pursue success or happiness involves things are outside your control. Instead, success and happiness come out of your daily actions, and out of your mindset.
If you dedicate yourself to a cause greater than yourself, success and happiness will ensue as a direct result of you striving for that cause.
3. You Choose Your Own Attitude
“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
― Viktor E. Frankl
There are unfortunately many things outside of your control, and they can impact your life greatly. Outside circumstances often hit hard, making life very difficult.
Viktor Frankl met one of the most horrible fates that you can imagine. He was locked up in a concentration camp, surrounded by death, at risk of dying himself. He called it Fate.
Yet he tried to make the best of his circumstances. He found meaning in his suffering, and this meaning got him through the worst of days. It carried him and willed him to go on when he was at the edge of death.
4. If You Can’t Change a Situation, Change Yourself
“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”
― Viktor E. Frankl
When you are faced with situations out of your control, you need to adapt to those circumstances. You need to find meaning in that situation. That is, to find what you can learn from it, and discover ways to carry you through.
5. Suffering Ceases to Be Suffering When it Finds Meaning
“In some ways suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning, such as the meaning of a sacrifice.”
― Viktor E. Frankl
6. Love is the Only Way to Grasp Another Human Being
“Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the innermost core of his personality.” — Viktor Frankl
7. The World Might Be in a Bad State, But We All Must Play a Part to Make it Better
“For the world is in a bad state, but everything will become still worse unless each of us does his best.”
― Viktor E. Frankl
Tuesday, July 5, 2022
Helpful tools for ADHD:
Helpful tools for ADHD:
- Music made for focus
- Track circadian rhythm
- Automatic calendar management
- Track computer usage
- Daily task manager
- Handwritten notes
- Personal OS
101 Zen Stories: Compilation of Zen Koans
AudioBuddha
Narrated by: Peter Coyote
101 Zen Stories is a 1919 compilation of Zen koans including 19th and early 20th century anecdotes compiled by Nyogen Senzaki, and a translation of Shasekishū, written in the 13th century by Japanese Zen master Mujū (無住) (literally, "non-dweller").
CAUSE OF DEATH: UNKNOWN - Big Pharma and the selling of mental illness
Monday, July 4, 2022
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